Archive for the ‘Love’ category

Catching up with …

Last winter I didn’t even manage a family holiday letter. In the past I’d let things slip as far as St. Patrick’s Day, but last year things felt so up in the air I had no idea how to describe where we’d been and where we were going, and so I let it drop altogether. […]

Dog fantasy

Wouldn’t it be great to have a dog? Some of you probably already have a dog. When my family had dogs (two, at different times), they solved all our problems. Our golden retriever, who only lived from 1986-1995, and was in many ways a very bad dog, may have saved my life. He also dragged […]


Cleaning out my desk today for an office move I discovered a copy of an essay I received from a student a couple years ago. I asked the class to write about a person who had had a big influence on them. I reproduce the essay here as is, with only the real names redacted. […]

Black box

Thank you, and good night

It was September 10, 2001 and this guy Bill who I found aloof and brittle but who served as a makeshift friend during a pretty lousy year asked if I wanted to go see Laurie Anderson the next evening. As you may have heard, some shit went down the next morning, and we both decided […]

Perry v. Brown (abridged version)

I know that it’s a long post, but 9th Circuit judge, Stephen Reinhardt’s opinion — which upholds the lower court’s finding that Proposition 8 is unconstitutional — is such a beautifully written document. Give it a read and tell me that you don’t feel like the giant ship of history isn’t starting to turn in […]

What did perversity look like?

This weekend it snowed and I decided to stay inside and cook and watch old movies on Netflix. It’s become difficult for me to watch anything made since the late 60’s or so; I’m going through a grumpy old lady phase. What strikes me is how incredibly perverted the films of the 50’s and early […]

Pretty Saro

 Sometimes a song is more than a song.   Sometimes you hear a song for the first time when your heart is breaking. When you are left and lost and sure no one has ever felt this alone. Then you hear this song and it is everything you feel sung exactly how you feel it. It is […]

Thursday playlist: Loose associations

Last time grandpa fawcett posted here, it was a bunch of gripes. This time it's a jumble of thoughts and enthusiasms, the ramblings of early dementia: 1.) This song “A Real Hero” by College (feat. Electric Youth) is from the movie Drive. I could not stop playing this song every day, ten times a day, […]

Love is in the Mix

[youtube][/youtube] Here’s a mix I made for the cocktail hour before a friend’s wedding a few years ago. 1. There is No Greater Love – Dinah Washington 2. Isn’t it Romantic? – Chet Baker 3. My Funny Valentine – Miles Davis Quintet 4. Pretty-Eyed Baby – Roy Eldridge & Dizzy Gillespie 5. Come Rain or […]