If I may, I’d like to raise a glass to you all, my chosen Whatsit family. My wish is happiness (no matter how each may define it) for every one of us. Peace and Love, SG
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On dinner
One of the few things my mother and I are in total agreement about in every way is that, in this scurvy and disasterous world of ours, nothing is in such a sad state as party RSVP manners. And of party RSVP manners, none have fallen so very low—-yea down into the very earth!—-as dinner [...]
Unexpected love
Grad school, they tell you, is the wire mesh mother. At best, they say, it’s the wire mesh mother. In Harry Harlow‘s experiments on baby rhesus monkeys, you recall, that was the one that never promised love. The little baby monkeys preferred the cloth mother doll, even if she was cold, or offered no food. [...]
What is it you want?
After the ball was over, after the break of morn, after the dancers’ leaving, after the stars were gone…it was about forty eight hours before I read my first piece of Internet verbiage about how the goal of marriage is an assimilationist one and how saddened the writer was to have her queerness coöpted. And [...]
St. Ann’s Kids . . .
Well, my sister finally passed away. It’s been a long time coming since she had lived with Multiple Sclerosis for 25 years. This is a photo of her oldest child with my son. The big kid was adopted into my parents family in 1980. The little one born into the extended clan in 2004. The [...]
On Why I No Longer do Shots with the Authors of Left Behind
S. and I met at Summer Language Nerd Convention in Bloomington in, what, 1999 or so, so it’s already more than a decade we know each other, as people say in areas where Yiddish has futzed with syntax a certain way. Years ago, when I was dating someone who worked in the movie industry*, S. [...]
What is best in life?
The canonical answer. For the rest of us, it is a bit more complex. I worried about this question almost constantly when I was a child. Should I strive for intellectual grandeur? Should I try to get political or physical power over others? Should I find someone who loves me in return, or just try [...]
It’s time to hate on NYC!
Last fall, when everyone was posting this (admittedly horribly true) Onion article, I was pretty irritated about it. I still live here, damn it. And it happened to come at a time when it seemed like everyone I know was leaving me to go do something else with their lives. (Looking at you, Dave.) Just [...]
Get your Middleton on again!
When you read this I have no doubt you’ll be sitting in your best dressing gown with a glass of Dom Perignon, removing your rollers and oohing and aahing over Kate’s dress. So if you’re not watching on BBC America where there are no commercial breaks, you’ll have time to test your knowledge with these…answers [...]
Things I remember about coming out in the ‘80s
Rachel’s and Dave’s posts this week stirred up a lot of thought about my own coming out circa 1987 in college. Random memories won out over narrative or analysis: I didn’t realize until later that when she kept sleeping naked with me in my bed, she wanted to be more than friends. Sinead O’Connor was [...]
