Archive for the ‘Future’ category

The old fools

The Old Fools by Philip Larkin What do they think has happened, the old fools, To make them like this? Do they somehow suppose It’s more grown-up when your mouth hangs open and drools, And you keep on pissing yourself, and can’t remember Who called this morning? Or that, if they only chose, They could […]

Thank you, and good night

It was September 10, 2001 and this guy Bill who I found aloof and brittle but who served as a makeshift friend during a pretty lousy year asked if I wanted to go see Laurie Anderson the next evening. As you may have heard, some shit went down the next morning, and we both decided […]

Ghost of christmas yet to come

Notes from Downtown

Not too long after those marches we went to in DC that so effectively stopped the war in Iraq, a friend of mine said one of those sentences that got pasted on my brain like a bumper sticker*. “Chanting in unison,” he said, “makes me ambivalent about, oh, just about everything.” I had felt this […]

Comparative Freedom

I have often wondered where I got my inability to understand the unspoken expectations of authority. For a while I figured there was some kind of cognitive gap right in the part of the brain that might do that; it feels almost like a mechanical failure. Of course it’s almost certainly the fault of radical […]


My parents are only in their early 70s…not so old, right?  Two weeks of vacation with parent 1 and then parent 2 brought me face to face with the brutal reality of our immortality.  Actually, I don’t think it’s the immortality that worries me.  It’s the aging. Mother has always been a challenge.  Apparently, as […]

Having a baby changes everything

“Not having kids is making aging confusing.” This was a friend’s status update. It jolted me to read it. In fact, I’m not sure how he intended it, but it took me back immediately to this documentary I watched in grad school, Daddy & Papa, about gay couples adopting kids. Now, I’ve never wanted kids. […]

I believe that children are our future. This is not a good thing.

I had to watch in 1-minute intervals and I missed a lot of it because the part of my brain that processes language would periodically blow a fuse out of some self-preservation instinct and I would stop understanding the words. If you can watch the whole thing at a stretch without dying of vicarious embarrassment, […]

What is it you want?

After the ball was over, after the break of morn, after the dancers’ leaving, after the stars were gone…it was about forty eight hours before I read my first piece of Internet verbiage about how the goal of marriage is an assimilationist one and how saddened the writer was to have her queerness coöpted. And […]

Yea or Nay?

1. Fingertoe shoes: Orthopedically sensational invention that cool people wear? Or fashion disaster?   2. X-Men: Moving allegory for discrimination in our nation’s history? Or goofy comic-book franchise?   3. Anthony Weiner: Resign? Or stay?   4. Lance Armstrong: Doper? Or unfairly maligned champion? 5. Edible gift for Father’s Day? Or… a tie?: